I feel like it was only yesterday when I first got the news of my motherhood. It’s hard to explain that while you can’t perceive anything inside you then, it will soon be verified and soon enough, you will start feeling those small movements of your baby in your abdomen.
Motherhood is an amazing feeling. The thought of having a baby feels really hard, sometimes, but at the same time, it is an incredible feeling. I too went through the usual ups and down that this phase is accompanied with, but I held on to the good, and breathed through the bad moments, and then got ready to welcome and prepare for the wildest and most wonderful ride of my life.
It was no longer something that I had only read about like a fictional story, but it was now the truth of my life. I welcomed my baby with my arms and heart wide open. When I first saw my baby, tears of joyous motherhood rolled down my cheeks and silently I promised to give my baby all I had within me by way of love and affection.
Children are the anchors of a mother’s life. My day started with the feeding routine, moved on to spoons of cereals and went on till the night ended with me singing lullabies to my son. Slowly, those silent small lips started forming the melodious and miraculous word, MA. Yes, it is the highest point in every mother’s life, and at this time, all other things seem secondary. This word works miracles in one’s life —conjuring up an “Oasis in the desert” for me. My only priority then was my kid. It is almost as if your life comes to a halt and nothing else is important in your life except your child. Mothers then work hard to move on to the next more stable and secure phase.
I then concentrated on bringing up my child with the utmost care like every mother does. Every mother wants to give her child the best and for her, he is the best kid in the world. But it is almost as if boys find it mandatory to be naughty at some part of the day. I let him do all the small and naughty pranks he wants to play.
I also take care not to force my thoughts on my kid. But gradually, I have been trying to instil in him some of my social and religious values and culture. And I find that through all these beautiful phases, a beautiful bond has been forged between my son, Viraj and I. Having an offspring is one of the greatest blessings in the world and although he is now five, I often find myself sharing all my thoughts and feelings with him. He understands all my insights and feelings so perfectly. It is as if our hearts are connected, and that the bond that connects us is apparent to both him and me, even when we are asleep, deep within our subconscious minds.
It is up to a mother to nurture this relationship with her children. The bond should be one of love, and the mere presence of each other should convey that love. This telepathy can help reassure them and even a tiny hug can heal them of their pain, both emotional and physical. Likewise, the hug of your small child can cure you of any sadness or pain that you may be going through.
Life is truly blessed for the person who has a child. Your child is a gift from God. There are many times, when I feel as if I have failed to achieve something in my life or in my work, but that doesn’t matter to my child. In the eyes, heart and mind of my son, I am a SUPERMOM.
Dr Parul Gupta holds a Masters in Physiotherapy (orthopaedics) and has eight years’ clinical experience. She believes in self-motivation and is always keen to expand her learning through books, religion and spirituality.