DR KAITY CAMA explains where true self-esteem comes from
Self-esteem. Self-worth. Self-respect. These are words we hear and read about so often, but where does real true self-esteem come from?
In the world, most people equate their self-esteem with “feeling good” about themselves when others praise them, when they have achieved success and promotions in their careers, when their bank balances are high, when they have expensive new and latest possessions and a large house to showcase those possessions, when they feel that other people’s opinions about them are very high. The problem with this is that this is not what contributes to real self-esteem. Also when the bank balance goes down due to erroneous investments or extravagant spending, or when people do not applaud them suitably enough, they lose self-esteem. And along with that, their self-confidence levels go down too. The “power” that this false self-esteem brings is a very hollow, shallow and superficial type of attitude.
So, where does REAL self-esteem come from? It comes from knowing who we really are, recognizing ourselves as Spirit which can create, which is pure creativity. We say God is everywhere. If you can really understand that, then you know exactly what i am saying. Once you recognize yourself, your real Self, nothing is impossible, and earthly laws become almost inapplicable to you. For instance, to get a job, one makes efforts, we talk to people, even go to the temple and prays, and wait and wait for an interview call, all the time, worried and anxious. That slight shift in consciousness when you recognize who you really are changes earthly life for you. Instead of you waiting and waiting and making efforts, the job will almost drop into your lap. Just the job you were looking for, at the salary you wanted, the designation you wanted, everything perfect. The same thing applies to those looking for a perfect mate as a life partner.
So, how do we enhance our real self-esteem? For starters, give yourself this self-affirmation if you choose to: “From now on in life, i will no longer belittle myself in any way. What other people think of me is their illusion; what I KNOW of myself is my Reality. Every day, in every way, with each breath i inhale, the God-Force in me expresses Itself more and more.”
If you could just experience the true power of real self-esteem, even for a moment, you will never turn your back to it, because it literally makes you “whole” again. The bottom line of every problem in life, whether it be health from an in growing toe-nail to a life-threatening ailment, to disruptions in relationships, to problems with career and money, the bottom line is a lack of real self-esteem.
Consider this: take a drop of water from the ocean. It contains everything the ocean is made up of, but it no longer has the might of the ocean, the nutrients in it change, it becomes powerless so to speak. So also, when we isolate ourselves from our Source Spirit, our Source consciousness, we too feel weak and helpless when confronted by any problem in life. Put that drop of water back into the ocean, and it BECOMES the ocean.
That power is not to be confused with the so-called worldly “power” that can crumble at a click of somebody else’s fingers.
The power of True Self-Esteem shifts your consciousness to greater heights of spiritual strength. You no longer feel resentments, jealousies, anger, worry which all stem from a fear of change.
Recognise yourself and taste the elixir of true living.
Recognising and validating yourself as Spirit. It is the sure, shot way to move ahead.
Kaity Cama made a mark for herself as a healer, clinical hypnotherapist and a Reiki grandmaster.
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