Trust me, we all are master chefs, when it comes to cooking our favourite sob story. Breathe deeply and remember your favourite sob story you have been cooking for years now, adding new flavours to the same content. Our story may be even worth the prestigious Academy Award for the dramatic sequences that we have woven around it!
In a world that brims with beauty, we have managed to create a convincing story of glorified struggle, misfortunes and incidents of victimisation at the hands of everyone. Isn’t this a major accomplishment?
How skilfully we have added the required melodramatic elements in our story to attract the attention of the people around us and gain their sympathy. Damn good, give a pat to yourself and smile at the wonderful result of your efforts so far.
Take a bow, and think if you can be this successful in creating pain and suffering, then what all you can create with a little more imagination?
Yes, you are the creator of your story, your reality. So, now shift your focus from your old worn-out story towards a different plot that makes you focus on gratitude for whatever you have.
Anything you focus on would expand. So think of abundance over shortages. Stop telling the whole world about your sorrows, and instead look around for joy and blessings, and I assure you, soon many reasons to smile would come your way ― and be thankful for it.
Once you embark on your journey for positive possibilities, miracles, beauty and joy, you will soon be part of your new reality and heading towards winning an Oscar with blessings and wishes pouring from all over the globe ― and you will flourish and prosper in your new reality.
Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More said, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life, it turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”
In our short-sightedness, we often don’t see the larger picture of life and that is why it becomes difficult to be calm when rough times hit us. If we go sailing and our boat gets stuck in the middle of the waters as there is no wind, would crying and cribbing help you? No, it would not. Wouldn’t it be better to be calm and wish that the wind will return to sail you through the waters? Or if there is a storm, instead of panicking, it would be wise to get your lifeboats ready, rather than becoming immobile with fear.
Remember in life there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Good times will follow bad times. Feel joy and you will soon be blessed with it. Try being a magnet of happiness and it will fill every pore of your being. Think of God and He will knock on your door.
Nupur Sandhu is a Serenity Surrender therapist, psychologist, film maker and author. As a professional psychologist and therapist, she has worked in Vietnam, Japan, France, Egypt, Dubai and the Philippines. She is founder-director of Yayavar Literary Festival.