MOHANJI explains the different kinds of fears we experience and how we can deal with them to live better, more wholesome lives
Expectations cause fear. We expect certain things to move in certain ways, or we expect our lives to take certain shapes. A person – a child is born completely pure, completely fresh, open to the world. Then what happens to the child? Education – conditioning starts there. Then a job, then marriage, children, a house, death. This is what society says is a good life.
Most people do nothing in life. They are just born. They’ll get educated; they get a job; they get a family, and then a house. Some people make more money; some people make less. Whatever it is, this pattern is what we call a good life. Fear is connected to this pattern.
If I don’t go this way, what’ll society think about me? How will society view me? Then comes a situation where I’ve to do these things. The “I” starts there. The I factor, the ownership factor it is what gives you fears. Oh, I couldn’t complete it; then comes regret and guilt. Sin, for example – all these things are created by society.
When you understand that you are an individual, you begin to understand that you are a totally fresh, new individual, born to experience life, and not the cages that society creates. Sometimes, we are really proud of these cages, just like a prisoner is proud of his prison cell. We are very happy to be in cages, and we boast about it.
Look into the eyes of fear
Fears come from ignorance. First of all, the first point is you are born, and you’ve to die. Whether you like it or not, someday, you exit, so it’s an inevitability. Why do we fear it? We fear it because of social relations and connections.
Fear is ignorance
Experience each relation fully every day. Start with wondering about each relationship, family members, and social relationships; experience this totally. So, no regret, no guilt for you as you experience every relationship at the time given to you. This time will not come again. Tomorrow is another day, another time. This time now is your experience. And that has to be experienced now, for which you need to be here.
Live every moment of your life as if there is no tomorrow. Be in the present while life happens
to you. No regrets. No guilt. No past nor future.
Just be here now, totally.
The mind should be present. You will look, but if the mind is not with your eyes, you don’t see. You can listen, but if the mind is not with your ears, you never hear. The mind has to be present in the present. Discard the past, the regrets, the guilt. Focus on here. And if you almost always are with every activity, whether it’s happiness or sorrow, then happiness or sorrow is not the problem here. Our perception of them is the problem. Life is about happiness and sorrow. It’s not only happiness. It’ll never happen that way. But our perception of this is the problem. Accept them, and you will not have fears.
When you accept every situation and every possibility, the fears will go; fears will not exist. This is how you can overcome fears. Fears can be overcome through awareness only. I’m a complete creation. I’m unique. I’m neither higher nor lower nor equal to people – anybody. I’m unique. I’m not made to be another brick on the wall.
Start living like that, and you’ll feel extraordinary freedom. And with that freedom will come creativity, completion, fulfilment, and probably you don’t need another life for this. Otherwise, we are just going through patterns in every life.
Mohanji has dedicated his life towards the earth and the service of all beings, with the conviction that the world should be a better place because we have lived here. Mohanji believes that: “The best religion for human beings is humanity” and the best practice is Ahimsa or non-violence in thought, word or action. He promotes the positive human qualities of kindness and compassion. He has a global following and lives his message of unconditional love expressed through Mohanji Foundations, Ammucare and ACT Foundations, which are conducting humanitarian activities globally.
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